Then the high officers, officials, governors, and advisers crowded around them and saw that the fire had not touched them. Not a hair on their heads was singed, and their clothing was not scorched. They didn’t even smell of smoke!  Dan. 3:27 NLT

It is possible to go through harrowing circumstances and come out whole but still with the smell of smoke.

Therefore, having these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God. 2 Corinthians 7:1

The Smell of Smoke Limits Our Love.

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails. 1 Cor. 13:4-8

 …Love never thinks of itself. Love does not get angry. Love does not remember the suffering that comes from being hurt by someone. 1 Cor. 13:5  NLV

“Hurt people hurt people”

We are to ignore the wrong… not the person.

Always act in the best interest of others.

Your worth, value and self-esteem is in God, not in how others treat you.

We are to be skilled practitioners in restoring people.

Brothers, if anyone is caught in any sin, you who are spiritual [that is, you who are responsive to the guidance of the Spirit] are to restore such a person in a spirit of gentleness [not with a sense of superiority or self-righteousness], keeping a watchful eye on yourself, so that you are not tempted as well. Gal. 6:1 AMP

Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous; not returning evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary blessing, knowing that you were called to this, that you may inherit a blessing. 1 Peter 3:8-9

The important thing is not the situation, but how we respond to the situation.

“You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. Matt. 5:14-15

The Samaritan had an Unaffected Spirit.

So he went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine; and he set him on his own animal, brought him to an inn, and took care of him. On the next day, when he departed, he took out two denarii, gave them to the innkeeper, and said to him, ‘Take care of him; and whatever more you spend, when I come again, I will repay you.’  Luke 10:34-35

Pour oil and wine on the wounds of others.

Wine stings – kills the infection
Oil soothes – takes away the pain

Don’t rub salt in the wounds of others.

Salt is the residue of our tears of anguish and pain.

Deal with your spirit daily.

Be angry, but do not sin. Do not let the sun go down upon your irritation.  Eph. 4:26 RGT

Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. Matt. 6:34

Seek a clean heart and a pure spirit.

Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: and see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. Ps. 139:23-24

Song: Search Me, Oh Lord

Search me, O God, and know my heart today,
Try me, O Savior, know my thoughts, I pray;
See if there be some wicked way in me;
Cleanse me from every sin, and set me free.